how to get love
dating
认识
- 聊一下觉得各方面都合得来，
- 就会直接约出去玩， 只为了多一点时间相处，更加了解彼此
相处是来电，就再深入一点
相处时一般，就变成普通朋友
从价值观，兴趣，工作，生活品味入手
投其所好
- 最近 ..., 要不要一起用
love
- give number out first -
- make the first move and ask - Simply ask them if they want to come grab a drink with you
+ "I've loved talking to you, would you want to grab coffee some time?"
+ "set a specific time and place
- that's great, are you free on saturday or sunday morning aournd 13:00?"
+ first date
- bring to somewhere they like or feel comfortable
- crowded restaurants, outdoor events, or small get-togethers
- wanna know more,and finding out if you're good match, not impress her
+ be yourself, because you wanna sometone to like you because of who you are
+ face-to-face conversation
- get to know someone to check whether you enjoy her company
- feel free to share things about yourself
- ask about work "what do you enjoy about your job?" - families
- "Do u like to travel?" "what would be her dream career" "do u have a favorite memory?"
- make physical contact (shoulder touching, linking arms,) , holds strong eye contact, and smiles,
- physical touch - hand on her back while you're waiting in line for tickets, hold hands during a movie, perhaps giving a compliment or moving in close to face
- Schedule more dates
+ slow down and get to know each other naturally
+ keep things casual to begin
- go out for food, see a movie, go for a walk or meet for coffee 1-2 times a week
+ plan an activity she's passionate about it <- ask her
+ "Hey, I had a great time with you last night, thanks again for the awesome dinner. Let's get together again when you have some time"
- build trust
+ giving turst for it, share a small secret, or goal
+ as you become more comfortable, you'll likely trust someone
- communicate your expectations for the relationship
+ after going on 3-5 dates, you need to talk about where things are headed
+ introduce her to your friends -> deeper
+ then throw in some romantic surprise
- sent her flowers at work, or planned a fun weekend trip, cooked inner
- 学会倾听 - 心灵导师
- 支持 - 眼神和动作上支持
- 情感支持 - 别着急责怪他们，也别急着给出自己的见解
- 明白对方真正想要的帮助是什么
- 安全感
- 冒险但不危险的气氛； 比如个人的反差性，比如 你本身会让人感觉到一些不安或难以琢磨，但相处下却发现你其实对她还不错
- 引导力： 创造能带她参与的有趣环境， 有机会体验一下不同的人生，学习不同的新知，开拓眼界，甚至好玩
- 环境造成的: 心跳加速的暗示
- 安全感是指：
+ 看你喜欢她的程度又多少
+ 看你能不能反过来 克制她: 女人真正要的是一个不受她支配的男人
+ 眼神中有自信，知道自己要的是什么； 对某些事情有原则，不因女生的在场而可以作修饰
+ 一种发自内心的安全感，对自己很有安全感
+ 学会不动声色地去关心对方
- 自在阶段：
- 在这个阶段累积你与女生的亲密感、信任度、记忆、安全感等要素。 若能藉此逐步加温，这段感情才会走得踏实
- 调整力道的调情； 用力道强一些的调情手段试探。如果她正面回应，你就等于往前又站了一步； 可以多些互動
- 觀察； 做為一個男人，应该要积极些
- 让女方在你的引导下，对这段关系有所「投资」， 让对方有参与，让她感觉她在贡献某种价值
- 让女人觉得你有维护她、记得她的喜好即可
- 追女人要让女生觉得你有趣、生命丰富、你有价值、跟你在一起好玩、开心、与放松(当然，你也要有同样的感觉才行
- 建立信任感，最重要的就是： 让对方觉得，我们是了解他的；又两个大方向：
- 说对方想听的话
- 让对方说想说的话
- reference:
- [恋爱](http://www.xinli001.com/info/13279/)
- [追女生](http://blog.udn.com/54PH7/2001852)