亲密关系

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">疏离型的人－</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">回避亲密，不忧</span><span style="font-family:.PingFangSC-Regular;color:#000ff;">虑被弃</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">临近的人，很容易得到奖赏</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">熟识的人－</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">重复接触</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">倾向认为外貌俊美的人</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">男性的薪水</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">在亲密关系中能与伴侣轻松舒适地相处显然是人人渴望的</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">相像的伴侣</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">刺激阶段：</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">相似的长相吸引力或许是选择伴侣的一个指标</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">两个人越相像，就越喜欢彼此；</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">共同点越多，彼此越喜欢；</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">相似的性格</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">价值观阶段：</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">吸引力取决于彼此态度和信念的相像程度，是否喜欢同样的电影和度假方式，</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">角色：</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">成长信念的人</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">采用改善关系的归因，期待得到善意和慷慨的回应</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">在线沟通存在大量的人际隔阂</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">－－</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">爱情</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">－－</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">表达：</span> <span style="color:#000ff;">1.</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">在精确表述上表现得很糟糕，如果他们抱怨某事，同时谈及几个问题</span> <span style="color:#000ff;">2.</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">彼此倾听方面表现糟糕，很少耐心仔细思索伴侣所说的话</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">尊重和确认的力量</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">－</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">对伴侣观点的关心和尊重</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">－</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">行为描述：</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">尽可能清楚明白，详细具体地指出惹怒我们的特定行为，</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">应该专指某一特定事件，不涉及普遍性；</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">用第一人称明确说明自己的感受；</span> <span style="color:#000ff;">“</span><span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">当你在</span><span style="color:#000ff;">x</span><span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">情境下做</span><span style="color:#000ff;">x</span><span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">的时候，我感到</span><span style="color:#000ff;">z”</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">－</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">复述和</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">向对方检验自己的知觉，</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">积极主动地努力理解自己的伴侣</span>

<span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">－－</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">人际交往</span> <span style="font-family:.PingFangHK-Regular;color:#000ff;">－－</span>